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10 Of My Favourite Baby Products As A New-ish Dad (So Far)

As a dad I’ve learned there is a psychotically staggering number of things you can buy for infants. Here are 10 of my favourite baby products… so far.

10 of My Favourite Baby Products as a New-ish Dad
Source: Our baby shower! Credit my wife’s amazing creativity and photo from the super talented Kenneth Yam Photography

I’ve really enjoyed being a dad. I was going to title this a list of my favourite baby products as a new dad, but the reality is it’s not so new anymore. The number of nappies changed is in the hundreds and well on its way into the thousands, the number of family outings has grown quite a lot, we’ve had a lot (a *lot*) of visitors and great generosity from the ones around us, and Kiddo herself is growing big and strong.

We laugh, we play, we cry, we get clean, we go to bed, and we do it all again. And all the while she keeps learning and growing. I’ve always loved the Brooke Fraser song Seeds and even moreso now as a parent.

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Why Are Men So Immature? (Revisited)

You want him to be a man but he’s content to stay a child, or perhaps you feel like all you know are little boys. Why are men so immature?

Why Are Men So Immature?
Source: Paramount – the immature manchild is a common trope of cinema indeed

Did ya miss me? It’s been quite a while since I’ve done any writing. The reason is because I’ve recently joined the Dad Club, with our daughter being born and I’ve been focusing all my time on making sure that’s been strong. It’s been a great experience and looking forward to our new life ahead.

But before Dad life became official, I was having some chats with some people about some blogs I wrote a loooooong time ago. One of them was about the perception that I had heard from a lot of women that all the men they know are fully immature – so old in fact that was written on a previous writing platform before Walking The Shoreline. I did revisit a more general version in Why Are People So Immature? and I thought it was high time to revisit this topic given there are a lot of people still struggling with this question of masculine maturity, or lack thereof.

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6 Ways To Be A Terrible Husband

No man starts out wanting to be this way, but that’s sometimes where we end up. Here are 6 ways to be a terrible husband.

6 ways to be a terrible husband
Source: Sony

“You’re not hearing what she’s saying, Matt”.

Krys is a sharpshooting older gentleman who wanted to have a chat to me during the dating phase with my now wife. I was startled as he ran through some examples of how I wasn’t hearing what she was saying and how instead I should be picking up on things.

But I was known as someone who helped many people with relationships, and people had so many praiseworthy comments about me, and I’d done so much research and study on the area… and and and…

And he was right. I had to change a few things.

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10 Ways To Minimize Fights In Marriage and Love

When the relationship is at peace, it can be heaven on earth; when it’s not, it can be a living hell. Here are 10 ways to minimize fights in marriage and love.

9 Ways to Minimize Fights in Marriage and Love
Source: Netflix (and still a really great movie)

It seems all of us know the couple who is always fighting. Or maybe even a few of them. I went on a bit of a movie kick again recently, rewatching some oldies but goodies, and pretty much every movie or TV show with a relationship between a man and a woman in it, you’re guaranteed to see them not getting along. It’s often used to comedic effect and often very successfully. “What’s with men and the Godfather?” – good ol classic from You’ve Got Mail comes to mind.

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10 Signs You’ve Found Marriage Material

We hear all the time about the red flags and the reasons to break a relationship off – instead, here are 10 signs you’ve found marriage material.

10 Signs You've Found Marriage Material

Source: NBC Universal

The search for a life partner can be an all consuming venture. Trying to find someone you want to marry is one thing, then you have to also find someone who wants to marry you. Relationships press every button on every issue in our lives – upbringing, identity, sense of worth, how we feel about our own hopes and dreams. You can feel like you’ll never find anyone, you can feel like you only find bad ones, you can feel like nobody is ever good enough for you, and you can even feel that terrifying feeling that you’ve missed your soulmate.

And there’s no shortage on material on red flags out there. It almost feels like there is no person who could ever be truly good enough to pass the impossible standards of the common criteria. I’ve read multiple red flag articles and left feeling that they can almost disqualify everyone we know.

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Mental Illness Isn’t An Excuse for Cruelty or Destruction

A recent tragedy of domestic violence has highlighted the dark reality of many relationships, resounding to us that mental illness isn’t an excuse to be cruel or destructive.

Mental Illness Isn't An Excuse To Be Cruel Or Destructive
Source: Daily Mail

What recent marital tragedy am I referring to? That would depend on where you live and when you are reading this. Unfortunately in every country at any point of the year, there are so many tragedies in relationships and marriages. Domestic violence, emotional or psychological abuse, and intentional cruelty ran rampant across our world today.

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7 Things That Push The Good Men Away

In the search for a partner, could you be pushing away the man of your dreams? Here are 7 things which push the good men away.

7 Things That Push The Good Men Away
Source: Warner Bros.

There are a few re-occurring seasons of life that put extra pressure and awareness on the state of your love life. Valentine’s Day is the obvious one, where every corner of marketing is covered in love (or anti-love, which still puts just as much pressure on). Christmas and birthdays are another time where the togetherness of others reminds you of whether or not you have a bae to call your own. New Year’s Eve, milestone events and achievements, season changes – all these things can be stabs in the heart with regards to a stunted love life. If you’re reading this one, it’s likely one of those seasons is pushing your buttons, or you know someone who’s experiencing this frustration.

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Why Men Need Purpose, Direction, and Income

“I want a man who’s unemployed, lazy and directionless”, said no woman ever. Here’s why men need purpose, direction, and yes – income.

Why Men Need Purpose, Direction and Income
Source: Warner Bros (and a really brilliant movie)

The last post I did was a response to a very popular ABC article about man drought in the faith community. That post definitely got a lot of attention and a large number of readers in a short time. It’s a topic that really resonated with a number of women who feel like it’s extremely hard to find someone to settle down with. In that post, I tried to rebalance a number of the criticisms aimed towards men, and called for a more realistic look at what’s really happening.

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Is There Really A Christian Man Drought?

What do you do when it feels like there’s no one out there for you? Are we really in the middle of a Christian man drought?

Is there really a Christian man drought?
Source: Wong Fu Productions (from the brilliant Single By 30 on YouTube Premium)

It’s been a little while since I’ve last posted something here. That’s because my wife and I have been in Europe for our anniversary. We went across England, Ireland, France and Greece. From London to Stratford to Galway to Paris to Athens, and even more places in between, we’re back and refreshed, ready for the next chapter of life.

I returned from our holiday to find that the ABC published a super popular, highly resonate article regarding the man drought in the Christian community. I have written a few times about the perceived man drought in the past, but this article in particular seemed to reach far and wide across the faith community, scratching at a perceived reality that affects people to the core of who they are. This, coupled with Singles Day in China causing multiple billions’ dollars worth of sales on the Alibaba site alone, is definitely of note at this time of the year.

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