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When What You Love Dies – Easter 2017

When What You Love Dies - Easter 2017A seemingly broken promise, the end of hope, and the death of what was supposed to be. This Easter, what do you do when what you love dies? It is a time of great uncertainty in the world today. There have been numerous attacks and great tragedies across multiple nations. Governments are in breakdown, millions of dollars ...

10 Reasons We Withhold Love From Each Other

10 Reasons We Withhold Love From Each OtherEveryone wants to be loved, and yet so many times, love is the hardest thing for us to express and receive. Here are 10 reasons we withhold love from others, and maybe why they withhold it from us. I like to climb the nature reserve next to my house every Saturday morning, and yesterday ...

Beauty And The Beast 2017 Review: An Ironically Realistic Love Story

Beauty And The Beast 2017 Review: An Ironically Realistic Love StoryTale as old as time… but is it worth seeing again this time? Here’s my Beauty and the Beast 2017 Review. I have the great fortune of living walking distance from a cinema. Granted that it’s a 20 minute walk up and down some hills that even some cars will struggle on, but even so. Tonight ...

Are You Actually A Christian?

Are You Actually A Christian?She’s doing all the right things, but her heart is far away… he’s a church leader, but he unapologetically abuses his family… are you actually a Christian? NB. The following post is intended for a professing Christian audience and addresses some very raw subject matter. You have been warned. It’s 5am on a Saturday morning, and I’m ...

My Breath Of The Wild Review: Stellar Heights With Diminishing Returns

My Breath Of The Wild Review: Stellar Heights With Diminishing ReturnsBefore it came out I was apathetic, when I started it I was amazed, but after the credits roll I am… conflicted. Here’s my Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild Review. I am a massive Legend of Zelda fan. Most people who come over my house will comment on the giant Ocarina of Time poster ...

6 Pros and Cons of Wanting To Be Friends First

6 Pros and Cons of Wanting To Be Friends FirstWhen it comes to relationships, it’s either someone you don’t know, or someone you do. Here are 6 pros and cons of wanting to be friends first. In movies in general, there is an extreme bias towards the tall dark handsome stranger, or the bubbly new girl who sweeps you off your feet. You know, she’s ...

What “It’s Not You, It’s Me” Really Means

What "It's Not You, It's Me" Really MeansThe most common breakup line of all time. Here’s what “It’s not you, it’s me” really means. I’m amazed sometimes at how willing people are to be open about their love life online. It’s not even really that direct all the time – it’s usually through the form of resharing existing posts or those Insta-poem things, ...

6 Pros and Cons of Quitting Social Media

6 Pros and Cons of Quitting Social MediaNot enough Likes, too many fake friends, and perhaps creating more problems than it solves – here are six pros and cons of quitting social media. It seems like every few weeks, I see that one statement pop up on my news feed. That one statement that people routinely frequent, or try for the first time, ...

7 Reasons You’ve Gotta Just Do It

7 Reasons You've Gotta Just Do ItYou’ve wasted enough of your life. Stop putting it off, making excuses, or avoiding it – it’s time to just do it. The start of the year is the time when most people receive the most call to action. Everyone starts with new resolutions and dreams for the year. Valentine’s Day in February calls on people ...

A White Male Conservative’s Thoughts On Donald Trump

A White Male Conservative's Thoughts On Donald TrumpI’m a white male conservative, making me one of the most hated combinations on the internet today. Here’s my thoughts on Donald Trump. It’s true. I’ve discovered recently thanks to the likes of Social Justice Warriors, Buzzfeed and MTV that I am just a deplorable human being. SJWs and Buzzfeed in particular have really highlighted just ...

8 Potential Reasons You’re Single for Valentine’s Day

8 Potential Reasons You're Single for Valentine's DayFebruary 14th is one of the most introspective and hated days of the year. Here’s why you might still be single for Valentine’s Day. I can always tell Valentine’s Day is approaching one of three ways. One – all the shops are going nuts with cards, flowers, chocolate, adult toys, and romantic movies. Two – all ...

My Problem With “Jesus, Take The Wheel”

My Problem With "Jesus, Take The Wheel"One of the most common expressions Christians use today, but not entirely Biblical or fruitful – here’s my problem with “Jesus, take the wheel”. I wrote a while ago about My Problem with Christian Conferences. It certainly generated a whole lot of buzz. Usually when I write about sex or relationships, everyone wants to jump in ...

Uh Oh, Nintendo: 5 Reasons The Switch Isn’t Looking Great

Uh Oh, Nintendo: 5 Reasons The Switch Isn't Looking GreatIn amidst all the hype and people raving about it, I’ve just got to say it – The Nintendo Switch isn’t looking great. I’m a massive Nintendo mark. Have been for ages. I have a lot of their consoles and still play them quite regularly. I recently plugged my Gamecube in again and have been going ...

How Do You Move On?

How Do You Move On?I think more of us would be doing it if we knew how – how do you move on? The past few days on Facebook a friend has been posting about her journey to recovery and healing in her life. While everyone else has been going nuts about getting their Ashy Bines Booty Challenge in to ...

Moana is Awesome

Moana is AwesomeSomewhat hidden underneath the release of the new Star Wars movie, a far superior film has hit the screens: Moana is awesome. Okay, okay fanboys and fangirls, settle down. I’m actually a massive Star Wars fan myself. I enjoyed Rogue One the first time. I would say it’s probably the weakest of the Star Wars prequels ...

8 Pros and Cons of New Beginnings

8 Pros and Cons of New BeginningsIt seems with another new year, everyone is ready to start again. But is that such a good thing? Here are 8 pros and cons of new beginnings. Well, ladies and gentlemen, we’ve made it into the most reflective portion of the adult calendar. The advent of another new year. 2017 approaches. Most of the feedback I’ve ...

I’m Just A Man (2016 In Review)

I'm Just A Man (2016 In Review)There’s been so much to happen across this year…. but I’m just a man. Here’s a very open look at my 2016. December. It’s here in force. That means Christmas approaches, which also means 2017. I was at my work Christmas party last week and was blown away by the fact that once again, the year ...

Why Are People So Immature?

Why Are People So Immature?This is definitely one of the biggest complaints that people have for the opposite sex, for coworkers, for so called friends and for those gone by. Why are people so immature? I think it’s always interesting to consider how there are two sides to every story. If you know two people who are having a disagreement or a ...

The Top 10 Best Movies Of All Time

The Top 10 Best Movies Of All TimeStrap yourself in, boys and girls. Here are the 10 best movies of all time. …At least according to me. John and Stasi Eldredge in their book, Love and War, wrote that one of the most intimate things that you can find out about someone is their favourite movie scenes. In the book, they implore couples to ...

The Challenge Of Our Pansexual Gender Fluid Society

The Challenge Of Our Pansexual Gender Fluid SocietyWith an increasing shift towards a pansexual gender fluid way of life, perhaps we are introducing a new challenge whilst trying to address an old one. Another day has gone by and another slew of events have happened all around the world. All eyes are fixed on the United States election, with everyone awaiting more alleged illegal ...

Not All Who Wander Are Lost… But Maybe Some Are

Not All Who Wander Are Lost... But Maybe Some AreEven the strongest soul can become overwhelmed with a sense of discontent and a lack of direction. Not all who wander are lost… but maybe some are. All that glitters is not gold. These are the immortal words of Shakespeare that were adapted by Professor JRR Tolkien in the poem of the same name. Essentially the ...

My Problem With Christian Conferences

My Problem With Christian ConferencesThe massive venues, the steep price tag, the lights and the world class speakers… Here’s my problem with Christian conferences. It seems like every month there are more and more Christian conferences popping up. Usually launched by churches, but also sometimes by organisations and partnerships, the options nowadays are unreal. From any denomination and any country, ...

10 Unforgettable Moments in Gaming

From Mario to Middle Earth, here are 10 of the most unforgettable moments in gaming… at least to me. Also, spoilers. If you don’t already know, I am a massive nerd. Sure, I love writing about deep and meaningful stuff, like relationships, friendships, the purpose of our lives or some massively topical issue. But at the same ...

Is Someone Leading You On?

Is Someone Leading You On?Empty promises, false hope, so close but so far, yet just enough to keep you going… Is someone leading you on? I think one of the most repeated experiences I’ve seen over the last month or so is the number of people who have gotten hurt through the channel of being led on. You know, being ...

7 Dating Pressures That Didn’t Exist 30 Years Ago

7 Dating Pressures That Didn't Exist 30 Years AgoThe love advice that used to work so well doesn’t fully apply in a new world. Here are 7 dating pressures that didn’t exist 30 years ago. This past Sunday night I went out with one of my favourite couples. They’re great leaders and mentors to probably hundreds of people (no exaggeration), and I’m fortunate to ...

Chrono Cross Is The Best Game Ever Made

Chrono Cross Is The Best Game Ever MadeThe girl who stole the stars, trapped within a memory, and the journey for her thoughts may cost you everything – here’s why Chrono Cross is the best game ever made. The opening sentence above is not what most people would expect out of a  video game. I meet many people even today who are surprised ...

My Relient K Air For Free Review

My Relient K Air For Free ReviewAfter the polarizing Collapsible Lung, how did Relient K do with their latest album? All I can say is, “Welcome back, boys” – here’s my Air For Free review. Relient K was a band I grew up with. During my teenage years I got introduced to the 5 man band, and they were an instant fit. ...

Meeting The Right Person at the Wrong Time

Meeting The Right Person at the Wrong Time“Nothing is sadder than meeting the right person at the wrong time”. Is it actually possible for this to happen? Memes are a fascinating creature. Last week I saw so many memes pertaining to a particular contestant on the current Australian season of The Bachelor, comparing her to Donald Trump and Jabba the Hutt. Personally I ...

Analysing The One Date Rule

Analysing The One Date RuleYou’ve given them at least one chance… now what? Here’s an analytical look at The One Date Rule. Also known as The One Coffee Rule. If you know me, you’ll know I’m quite the logical processor of life. I really like thinking things through. Heck, my last post was exactly about this phenomenon – you can give that ...

My Struggle: A Logical Mind in an Emotional World

My Struggle: A Logical Mind in an Emotional WorldDriven by what seems to make sense, but in a world of feelings – here’s a look at one of my biggest internal struggles in life: Being a logical mind in an emotional world. For as long as I can remember, I have taken a very structured approach to life. From the earliest ages, my family assured ...

Should You Get Back With An Ex?

  They say Never Say Never, and Tay Tay says Never Ever Ever Ever Ever, but should you get back with an ex? I recently was away for a weekend with a bunch of mates at an Air BnB type thing (where you rent a holiday house for a few days) up the Sunshine Coast in Queensland. ...

How Much Does Physical Attraction Really Matter?

How Much Does Physical Attraction Really Matter?Sharp looks, six packs, and curves that make the boys do swerves – how much does physical attraction really matter? With the release of the movie “Me Before You”, the role of the body in relationships is once again in the spotlight. While I haven’t seen this movie yet myself, what I have seen is the ...

7 Real Talk Reasons Why You Don’t Have Any Friends

7 Real Talk Reasons Why You Don't Have Any FriendsOne of the most common statements we make, but what’s the truth behind it? Here are 7 real talk reasons why you don’t have any friends. I think one of the saddest things I hear is when people say they really don’t have anyone they connect with. Can you relate with that? Surrounded by so many ...

Men and Rape Culture

Men and Rape CultureIt seems like more and more, the voices of women are crying out for a solution – what can be said about men and rape culture? WARNING: Mature written content and trigger warning You’ve probably seen recently the horrendous actions of the former Stanford swimmer Brock Turner. His recent actions and the incredibly lenient 6 month sentence ...

7 Reasons I Love The Movie Something Borrowed

7 Reasons I Love The Movie Something BorrowedA chick flick even men can enjoy, a good cast, and a film that’s all too real – here are 7 reasons I love the movie Something Borrowed. A while ago (and I mean a while ago) I wrote a post entitled The Anatomy of a Chick Flick. In that post I wrote about what seems to be ...

What “I Don’t Need A Man / I Don’t Need A Woman” Really Means

What "I Don't Need A Man / I Don't Need A Woman" Really MeansWhen people say “I don’t need a man / I don’t need a woman”, are they saying what they really mean? Well, ladies and gents, it’s that time again. Time to look at another one of those often used statements that we all know and love, and have a look at what we really mean when ...

When You’ve Lost Your Joy

When You've Lost Your JoyWearing a smile but carrying a heavy heart, losing the sense of hope and optimism you once had – it’s a difficult journey when you’ve lost your joy. Getting older is usually marked by a few things. One is the slowing down of the body, where the things you used to be able to do (or ...

6 Reasons Our Dreams Haven’t Come True

6 Reasons Our Dreams Haven't Come TrueSometimes what you want the most seems so far away. Here are 6 reasons our dreams haven’t come true. What is it that you want most in your life? Do you already have it? Or does it still seem far away? This week I’ve really been reminded again of the power of people’s dreams. Most of us have a ...

When You Can’t Stop Feeling Ashamed

When You Can't Stop Feeling AshamedThat hanging sense of guilt and shame, a wondering if you’ll ever be good enough… What do you do when you can’t stop feeling ashamed? When it comes to secrets, most of us have quite a few. We can have secrets about what we want to do with our lives. We can have secrets we know about ...

The Best Comic Book Movie? Amazing Spiderman 2 Review

The Best Comic Book Movie? Amazing Spiderman 2 ReviewWith Civil War’s Spiderman drawing rave reviews, who is the ultimate Spiderman? Time to look at my favourite comic book movie – here’s my Amazing Spiderman 2 review. Not gonna lie – I thoroughly enjoyed the new Captain America: Civil War. I saw it a few days after it came out with some friends and all I can ...

Matt Answers ANYTHING

Matt Answers ANYTHINGYou asked, I answered. From the Lego Hair on my head to why I talk about relationships so much, here are the honest answers to your questions. Here is where Matt answers anything. So a while ago I put it out to my readers to ask me whatever they wanted. Last week, I had a number ...

Can Women Pursue Men, Or Should Men Pursue Women?

Can Women Pursue Men, Or Should Men Pursue Women?Time for one of those questions which spawns the age old debate – can women pursue men, or should men pursue women? It seems whenever the conversation of relationships come up, there are always a few divisive questions that arise. I’ve written about a bunch of them before, and they’ll probably appear to the side or at ...

What It Takes To Be A Gentleman

What It Takes To Be A GentlemanWhere have all the good men gone? Here’s a look at what it takes to be a gentleman. I was recently sitting in a number of functions where I was watching an ad for a certain set of events that were being repeated several weeks in a row. Events tailored to women, it was pretty cool to ...

8 Ways To Not Suck at Time Management

8 Ways To Not Suck at Time ManagementProcrastinating, always feeling flat out, never enough hours in the day, running behind… here are 8 ways to not suck at time management. When I was in high school and early uni days, some of my friends were compiling a document simply entitled “How To Not Suck”. The intention was that it would be full of great adventures ...

5 Reasons Forgiveness is So Hard

5 Reasons Forgiveness is So HardTrapped in a memory, unable to move past what they did to you, and forgiving is the last thing you want to hear… here are 5 reasons forgiveness is so hard. I think it’s safe to say that when it comes to relating to people, one thing is guaranteed – you’re going to get hurt. I ...

Batman v Superman Spoiler Review – Is It Really That Bad?

Batman v Superman Spoiler Review - Is It Really That Bad?Talk about mixed reviews – Man of Steel 2: The Fusion of Multiple Comics is not doing so well with critics. Here’s my Batman v Superman spoiler review. Also, in case it wasn’t clear, spoilers for the entire Batman v Superman film will follow. You have been warned. No, seriously… spoilers. If you haven’t watched the movie or don’t ...

6 Problems With “The Spark”

6 Problems With "The Spark"The lights hit, the heavens opened, the angels sung, and that’s when you knew… or did you? Here are 6 problems with The Spark. “The Spark” is one of the most elusive and contentious issues when it comes to the conversation of relationships. Not to be confused with “Nicholas Sparks”, who has created many a male enemy ...

5 Things about Men I’m Surprised Women are Surprised About

5 Things about Men I'm Surprised Women are Surprised About“Isn’t he supposed to be…?” – here are 5 things about men I’m surprised women are surprised about. One of my favourite things to do in my introspective downtime is to think about some of the consistent statements I encounter in my life. “All women are the same” – I hear this one all the time. I’ve ...

Top 10 Dragon Ball Moments

Top 10 Dragon Ball MomentsStep into the Grand Tour, Cha La your Head Cha La, power up to over 9000, and bow to the Prince – here are the top 10 Dragon Ball moments. I saw a great meme that pretty much what sums up what’s about to happen here. It had the difference between girls and boys growing up: Girls ...

Addressing the Sexual Elephant in the Room

Addressing the Sexual Elephant in the RoomAttraction, addiction, assault, even appetite – can we address the sexual elephant in the room? Mature written content warning. If you take a look at the news over the last few months, some of the biggest headlines are revolving around sexuality in some way, shape or form. I guess that’s true of any point in human history ...

7 Reasons Why I Value Women

7 Reasons Why I Value WomenIt should never be about one gender without the other. Here are 7 reasons why I value women. If you follow me on Facebook, you will have seen two items of note recently. One is that I was recently featured on Thought Catalog, and the second being that I’ve put out there an opportunity to Ask ...

Valentine’s Day 2016

Valentine's Day 2016The day of love means so many different things to so many different people. What does Valentine’s Day 2016 mean to you? Valentine’s Day is to love as Christmas is to family. At Christmas time, no matter where you may be, it’s a constant reminder of you and your family. That can be a very happy thing, or ...

7 Ways To Stop Feeling Lonely

7 Ways To Stop Feeling LonelyMaking connections that work can be a daunting experience as you get older. Here are 7 ways to stop feeling lonely. Sometimes it can be embarrassing to admit it, but a lot of us really struggle to make new friends as our lives are changing and we’re getting older. Loneliness is one of the most prevalent problems ...

6 Reasons We Don’t Say What We Mean

6 Reasons We Don't Say What We MeanWhere words and reality are two different things – here are 6 reasons we don’t say what we mean. I dunno about you, but a word that has been really publicised lately has been the word regret. I was talking to some people the other day about the songs that are out the moment, and they were ...

10 Random TV Shows I Enjoyed Growing Up

10 Random TV Shows I Enjoyed Growing UpAnd now for some hidden gems from our childhood – here are 10 random TV shows I enjoyed growing up. We all have those popular shows that we have fond memories of. I recently saw a topic which resurfaced the other day about the restoration of a classic Australian morning TV show known as Cheez TV. ...

I Can’t Compete With Myself

I Can't Compete With MyselfI can’t compete with myself. For those who know me, I can be quite an introspective little soul. I constantly find myself looking at my current behaviour, situations, thoughts, dreams… pretty much everything really. I usually find myself asking for feedback and trying to understand myself and others better, almost to the point of annoying others ...

5 Emotional Games We Need To Stop Playing

5 Emotional Games We Need To Stop PlayingIt’s fun when it’s with entertainment, but it’s not so fun when it’s with people… here are 5 emotional games we need to stop playing. If you’ve been on the Internet at all in the first few days of this year, you may have seen one of the number one trending hashtags and sets of posts ...

Who’s Going To Pay For Your Dream?

Who's Going To Pay For Your Dream?So you want to change the world… but who’s going to pay for your dream? A practical look at making dreams a reality. One of my favourite things to ask someone is what their dream is. It seems like a simple question, but it often takes many people a long time to respond. Some respond by ...

My The Force Awakens Spoiler Review

My The Force Awakens Spoiler ReviewThe latest story in the Star Wars saga is here and smashing all the records in the book. Here’s my The Force Awakens spoiler review. And in case it wasn’t already obvious… spoilers spoilers spoilers. If you haven’t seen Episode 7, turn back now, Jedi. Also the comments will likely have spoilers in them, so… just don’t read this ...

6 Things I’m Grateful For In 2015

6 Things I'm Grateful For In 2015It’s been a year of highs and lows. With the arrival of 2016, here are 6 things I’m grateful for in 2015. Wow. 2016 is here. That means the 20s are almost back (also known as the Twenty Twenties). You know, a lot of people at this time of year comment on how quickly the year has ...

13 Reasons I Prefer The Star Wars Prequels

13 Reasons I Prefer The Star Wars PrequelsWith the whole world going nuts with the release of Episode 7, here are 13 reasons why I prefer the Star Wars prequels. I think I just broke the Internet. Star Wars Episode 7 is upon us, boys and girls. Every single company in the whole earth is going for a cash in. Everything everywhere is covered ...

When Your Heart Isn’t In It Anymore

When Your Heart Isn't In It AnymoreYou started out optimistic and full of life, but now your heart isn’t in it anymore. What do you do when you feel exhausted by what you used to love? It’s been a fairly reflective season for most people lately. I guess December does that to you. I mean, it’s already the end of the year! ...

Hello From The Other Side

Hello From The Other SideAdele’s new haunting melody is a hit, a meme, a Vine category, and is resonating something deep with listeners  – here’s a look at Hello… from the other side. I love weddings. I was MCing a wedding reception about a month ago where something absolutely beautiful happened – the bride shared a stunning rendition of Only Hope ...

The Friends Who Stay & The Friends Who Leave

The Friends Who Stay & The Friends Who LeaveThere are people who seem to come and go in our life, but why? Here’s a look at the friends who stay and the friends who leave. It’s been a little while, hasn’t it? I was at a Christmas party last night where I met some people through some mutual friends, and they were like, “oh ...

How We’re Doing Social Media Wrong

How We're Doing Social Media WrongGetting the most Likes, Instagram models quitting social media, constantly comparing your life to someone else… I think we’re doing social media wrong. You’ve seen the headlines. Another queen of social media has come out labeling the entire platform as a sham. Extremely popular Sunshine Coast Insta-Model Essena O’Neill recently cancelled her popular account and started ...

The Top Ten Best Moments from The Office

The Top Ten Best Moments from The OfficeFrom Megadesk, bears, beets, Battlestar Galactica, Jim & Pam, Andy, Dwight, and Michael – here are the top ten best moments from The Office. Oh yeah, and… spoilers. I was talking to a friend the other day about a rom com she was watching which turned out to be one of those super realistic looks at love. ...

9 Obscure Movies I Enjoyed

9 Obscure Movies I EnjoyedSometimes you just have to break a bit from popular opinion… here are 9 obscure movies I enjoyed. I’ve received a lot of feedback when I’ve written about some of the movies I’ve enjoyed. Movies are great because they often communicate very central messages to a very wide range of people. I find when I’m meeting ...

What Guarding Your Heart Really Means

What Guarding Your Heart Really MeansFor from it flows all the issues of life… Here’s a look at what guarding your heart really means. One of the common approaches I’ve taken with a number of things I’ve written about is to think about some of the things that we say a lot, and explore what we really mean by that. After all, ...

5 Lies We Tell Ourselves

5 Lies We Tell OurselvesDishonesty can be super destructive, but it’s even worse when the one lying to me is the man in the mirror. Here are 5 lies we tell ourselves. One of my favourite bands is going to be here in Brisbane in the next few weeks – TFK. Absolutely love those guys. Usually when I’m giving people a ...

12 Life Defining Leadership Lessons

12 Life Defining Leadership LessonsWe all want to make a difference in people’s lives, but how do you truly influence and help others? Here are 12 of the most life defining leadership lessons in my life. So, you want to change the world. You know in your heart that some way, some how, you want to make a difference in ...

6 Mixed Messages In Disney Movies

6 Mixed Messages In Disney MoviesAh Disney, how could you lie to us about so many things? Here are 6 mixed messages in Disney movies. Have you ever gotten mixed messages from someone before? When I’m in work meetings and someone will be presenting something crucial, they’ll often ask, “are you paying attention?”. It’s always the person who’s been on their phone the ...

I Wish I Wasn’t Afraid

I Wish I Wasn't AfraidYou know what I wish sometimes? I wish I wasn’t afraid. Fear holds us back from so much in life. This year has been a pretty amazing year for me. There’ve been so many big changes happen, and it’s a far cry from last year. It’s been a similar year for so many other people in ...

My 10 Favourite Games of All Time… More or Less

My 10 Favourite Games of All Time... More or LessAnd now for something very near and dear to my heart – here are 10 of my favourite games of all time… give or take a few. I have a confession to make. A big one. Are you ready? I hope your opinion of me doesn’t change, but… I am actually a massive nerd. Actually, most ...

7 Reasons Why Atheism Makes No Sense To Me

7 Reasons Why Atheism Makes No Sense To MeReligion is often dismissed as illogical and fairytale, but I find myself feeling that way about the secular alternative. Here are 7 reasons why atheism makes no sense to me. And no, you’re not going to find Pascal’s Gambit here. There seems to be a stigma that you can’t be a person of faith without having a little ...

What I’m Too Busy Really Means

What I'm Too Busy Really MeansThey say busy is the new black, but are people as busy as they’re letting on? Here’s what I’m Too Busy really means.   We’ve all been there. You’re putting together an event, or trying to catch up with someone you haven’t seen in a while, or trying to make an appointment with the family, and just ...

The Motherhood Dream

The Motherhood Dream“I want to be a mum” – the cry of many a woman’s heart. But how are we approaching the motherhood dream in the 21st century? I often find myself writing about fathers. Being a guy, I guess I sort of gravitate towards that side of parenthood. The restoration, preservation and equipping of fathers is something ...

4 Reasons We’re Afraid of Getting Close

4 Reasons We're Afraid of Getting CloseEven though we desire friendship and love, the truth is often we’re actually afraid of getting close. Are we lonely because we’re doing it to ourselves? Loneliness is one of the mot prevalent issues in our world today. No matter what suburb, city, country, culture, religion or creed you’re from, all of us know what it is at times to ...

Burnt Out At Church

Burnt Out At ChurchPastor, leader, volunteer or even attendee – there seems to be an epidemic of people getting burnt out at church. I think one of the great tragedies of church life is that so many people have been hurt in the church. The thing is, you don’t expect to be. Church is meant to be this wonderful place ...

The Men Who Stay and The Men Who Leave

The Men Who Stay and The Men Who LeaveThere are the men who stay, and there are the men who leave. What can be done when he walks away? Recently, the dating site Ashley Madison was the victim of a major hack where the sensitive data of all its users was leaked all over the Internet. People have been questioning whether or not the hack ...

6 Pros and Cons of “If It’s Meant To Be”

6 Pros and Cons of "If It's Meant To Be"“If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen”. Really? Here are 6 pros and cons of this idea. Since I started this blog, even before that really, I’ve had a number of people approach me to write on different topics. Some people have asked me to write about finding purpose in your corporate job, or about my ...

Have I Made It Yet?

Have I Made It Yet?Spending my 20s hitting all the big milestones… apparently. Have I made it yet?   It’s been a little while, huh? Apologies for the lack of posts recently. If you’ve been following a few of my last posts or have spoken to me lately, you’ll know over the last 4 months or so i have been trying to ...

4 Ways We’re Screwing Up Sex In The West

4 Ways We're Screwing Up Sex In The WestWe say we’re progressive… but are we really progressing? Here are 4 ways I think we’re screwing up sex in the West. Sex is awesome. It’s the reason you clicked on this link. For most people, sexuality forms a massive part of our lives. But the way we’re approaching it isn’t always awesome. Just a warning if it ...

7 Things People Always Blame

7 Things People Always BlameIt’s my upbringing, or my personality, or the government, or that girl, or… here are 7 things people always blame. In Australia, we pride ourselves on being what we call Aussie battlers. There’s always something we’re struggling against. I’m always telling foreigners who come to visit our country that almost everything can kill you. When they ...

7 Challenges When Everybody Else Is In A Relationship

7 Challenges When Everybody Else Is In A RelationshipMaking friends with the new beau, seeing people less, Valentine’s Day… here are 7 challenges when everybody else is in a relationship. Quite a while ago I wrote about my adventures as a third wheel. Some friends had observed that a majority of my friends were spoken for while I had been single and/or seemingly inactive. ...

8 Pros and Cons of Waiting To Be Chosen

8 Pros and Cons of Waiting To Be ChosenIs waiting to be chosen the right approach to take in life? Here are 8 pros and cons. Recently I’ve been thinking a lot more about the decision making process. I’ve been trying to buy a house lately, and it’s absolutely full on. I had some basic ideas on what’s involved, but I had no idea ...

Facing Mental Health Issues

Facing Mental Health IssuesAnxiety, depression, dark thoughts and paralyzing emotions – it can be very difficult facing mental health issues. Mental health has been one of the largest areas of medical research in recent years, and rightly so. There seems to be an ever increasing amount of us who either have had some sort of mental health issue at some point, ...

Analyzing Demi Lovato’s Heart Attack

Analyzing Demi Lovato's Heart Attack“Puttin’ my defences up, cause I don’t wanna fall in love. If I ever did that…” – here’s a look at Demi Lovato’s Heart Attack. I’m a big fan of a number of YouTube cover artists. I’ve enjoyed a lot of the covers done by The Piano Guys, Ahmir, and Alex Goot. Anthem Lights and Boyce ...

Choosing Between Two Good Options

Choosing Between Two Good OptionsWhen you’re faced with equally good decisions, which path do you take? It can be pretty hard choosing between two good options… or more. I’ve recently been in a very exciting season of life. Not gonna lie – it’s been quite stressful, a little bit tense, a little bit uneasy, and a little unsettling. But the step ...

5 Reasons I Love Pastors and Christian Leaders

5 Reasons I Love Pastors and Christian LeadersSome of the most undervalued people in our world, but a group very close to my heart – here are 5 reasons I love pastors and Christian leaders. I am quite actively involved in my local church. I get a lot of comments about it, usually from different people who see me serving in a lot of ...

7 Qualities of Great Friends

7 Qualities of Great FriendsNo matter whether your life is going good or bad, the right people can make it all worthwhile. Here are 7 qualities of great friends.   A few weeks ago I had something that brought up a lot of memories from a difficult time last year. It was quite confronting remembering some of those harder moments. The ...

Does Being In A Relationship Change You?

Does Being In A Relationship Change You?The accusation of many a friend – does being in a relationship change you? Few expressions annoy people more than the two words, “you’ve changed”. If you ever want to tick someone off and get them riled up in finding out what you mean, just even hint to them the fact that they aren’t who they ...

6 Pros and Cons of Being Independent

6 Pros and Cons of Being IndependentWe fight for our right to do it on our own, but is it always a good thing? Here are 6 pros and cons of being independent.   One of the great rites of passage that isn’t always as defined as a rite is the acquisition of our independence. You’re all grown up now, you can be ...

8 Songs That Really Spoke To Me

8 Songs That Really Spoke To MeEver have a song describe exactly how you’re feeling? Here are 8 songs that really spoke to me. Everyone loves music. There’s something about someone singing it instead of saying it that all of a sudden gives a sentence so much more meaning. Music can take you on a journey or transport you to somewhere else. It can ...

5 Awkward Conversations with the Opposite Sex

5 Awkward Conversations with the Opposite Sex  Don’t know what to say? Don’t know how to say it? Here are five awkward conversations with the opposite sex… …that probably shouldn’t be. Over the last few weeks I got to catch up with a few friends I don’t always get to see. I try my best to stay in touch with most of the people in ...

Who Are You Sleeping With?

Who Are You Sleeping With?The bedroom is one of the most private and intimate places in our lives. Who are you sharing it with? Who are you sleeping with tonight? Few places in the house are as private as the bedroom. Sure, some people have special places on their couch or a secret cupboard they like to spend time in, ...

Can Guys Be Too Nice?

Can Guys Be Too Nice?Here’s a touchy topic for a lot of men – can guys be too nice? Is it true that nice guys finish last? There are several terms that men don’t like to be described as being. One of them is the word “cute”. You know what I’m talking about. When a woman says a guy is ...

6 Not-So-Funny Contradictions In Life

6 Not-So-Funny Contradictions In LifeDon’t you hate it when someone acts like a hypocrite? Whether it’s them, you, or me, these are 6 not-so-funny contradictions in life. No one likes a hypocrite. If I asked you if you know any hypocrites, chances are you could list a bunch off right now. Usually we target those in politics or in the public eye who ...

5 Things That Don’t Actually Keep People Together

5 Things That Don't Actually Keep People TogetherThese things promise so much for our relationships, but offer so little in the long run. Here are some things that don’t actually keep people together.   The early stages of love are often so difficult to traverse. It’s the question of going from stranger to lover. Sometimes, you have already been friends for a period of time ...

7 Movies That Made Me Cry

7 Movies That Made Me CryBring the tissues and forget the man cards… here are 7 movies that made me cry. Don’t judge me… well, okay, maybe judge me a little. I’ve been writing a bit on the topic of movies lately. I dunno what it is, must just be a phase where I’m seeing more movies or thinking of more movies. Or ...

7 Popular Movie Cliches About Love

7 Popular Movie Cliches About LoveThe films we love have a whole lot to say on the topic of romance. Here are 7 popular movie cliches about love.   You’ve probably noticed that a lot of movies have a lot in common. After a little while, you start to pick up the formula. Sometimes I wonder if I couldn’t put together a movie myself. ...

What “I’m Waiting” Really Means

What "I'm Waiting" Really MeansWe have a billion reasons why we can’t be or aren’t where we want to be. The main answer? “I’m waiting”. But have we given any thought to what “I’m waiting” really means?   Little known fact about this site is that the most popular blog posts I’ve written aren’t always the most commented, liked, or even shared ones. ...

When You’re Tired Of Always Being The Strong One

When You're Tired Of Always Being The Strong OneAlways investing into others… but who is looking out for you? There are some things you need to hear when you’re tired of always being the strong one for everyone else. It’s amazing how giving some people can be. I was blown away recently thinking about a few of the older men I know at my church who ...

4 Ways You’re Probably Taking Yourself For Granted

4 Ways You're Probably Taking Yourself For GrantedThe person who appreciates you the least may actually be the person reading this right now. You’re probably taking yourself for granted. Everyone wants to be appreciated. It’s a need that all of us have. Sometimes people are made to feel bad for their need to feel needed. I don’t think that’s something we need to ...

Husbands, Love Your Wives

Husbands, Love Your WivesMen talk a lot about needing to feel respected, but how about we talk about what they’re supposed to do? Husbands, love your wives… It seems that as guys, we talk a lot about what we expect from our relationships. Some men talk about wanting to be feared in their home. I dunno if “feared” is the ...

6 Surprisingly Profound The Lion King Moments

6 Surprisingly Profound The Lion King MomentsEveryone loves a good Disney movie, but it’s surprising just how profound The Lion King really is all these years later. You may never look at Simba’s adventures the same ever again. I recently caught with a friend I hadn’t seen in ages. We both had some great food and some great chats. We were both in very ...

9 Movies I Like But No One Else Does

9 Movies I Like But No One Else DoesAnd now for something completely different… here are 9 movies I like but no one else does! When it comes to the topic of movies, everyone has their favourites. John and Stasi Eldredge in their book, Love and War, say that the movie scenes we remember the most are probably some of the most intimate details of our ...

The Trend of Sexual Violence In Cinema

The Trend of Sexual Violence In CinemaBigger shock factors, “mature” topics, darker themes… but there’s something just not right about the trend of sexual violence in cinema. Mature written content warning. The first Hunger Games movie for me was a bit of an interesting concept. The centre of The Hunger Games is about a world which has had all war between nations replaced by ...

Why Christian Guys Date Outside Their Church

Why Christian Guys Date Outside Their ChurchOne week he’s sitting by himself, the next he’s next to someone you don’t know. Here’s why Christian guys date outside their church.   I recently wrote about Why Christian Girls Date Non-Christian Guys. I wrote it in response to a number of my female friends bringing up the feelings they’ve felt about trying to find a Nice ...

6 Things Only Misunderstood People Would Understand

6 Things Only Misunderstood People Would UnderstandThere are some things that only misunderstood people would understand.   The need to be understood is one of the deepest needs we have. It’s not just a matter of being able to find and become the person you’re supposed to be – it’s trying to do it in a way that doesn’t leave you feeling forgotten ...

Why Christian Girls Date Non-Christian Guys

Why Christian Girls Date Non-Christian GuysIt seems like more and more church-going ladies are looking outside their faith for romance. Here are some real reasons Christian girls date non-Christian guys.   The search for love is different for everyone. For some, it’s a relatively quick and easy process to find the man or woman you’d love to spend the rest of your life ...

The Truth Behind 50 Shades of Grey

The Truth Behind 50 Shades of GreyOne of the best selling books of recent memory is coming to a screen near you. Here’s the truth behind 50 Shades of Grey. Over the last little while I’ve been to the movies quite a few times. Of course, I had to see Part 3 of The Hobbit on Boxing Day, which was a fitting ...

Why You Still Have No Idea What You’re Doing

Why You Still Have No Idea What You're DoingStill have no idea what you’re doing with life? You’re not alone. And maybe it’s time to look at why…   …but only if you really want to know. It’s amazing how things change as you get older. People move overseas, get married, have kids, change careers, start buying houses, start new fitness programs, start their own businesses, have ...

I Wish There Were More Female Role Models

I Wish There Were More Female Role ModelsTo be honest, I wish there were more female role models. And it’s not the younger generation I’m most concerned for… Amanda Bynes. I grew up watching her in such Nickelodeon classics as All That and The Amanda Show (Manda Manda Manda Manda Manda, Shooooooow). She was a paragon of her kind, a great example of a ...

The One That Got Away

The One That Got AwayCall it unrequited love, loving and losing, missed opportunity or timing that never worked out – what do you do with the one that got away? Love can be an amazing thing. I’ve recently had a flurry of friends either start dating, get married, celebrate anniversaries, or get engaged. It’s a happy time, full of new ...

5 Things Divorce Has Taught Us About Marriage

5 Things Divorce Has Taught Us About MarriageIs there “A One” or “The One”? When are you ready? Better or worse? Divorce has taught us a lot about marriage. I would venture to bet that there are very few people who aspire to get divorced at some point in their lives. I don’t think many people wake up one day and think, “Hey, ...

2014 – The Year I Didn’t Think I’d Survive

2014 - The Year I Didn't Think I'd SurviveThis year was a year I didn’t think I’d survive… and Christmas is as good a time as any to be honest about it. Not that I haven’t been honest about it before now, but at the end of the year and looking into 2015, it’s definitely a story worth sharing. Believe it or not, the time has ...

7 Good and Bad Things About Tinder

7 Good and Bad Things About TinderSwiping left or right, having the ideal profile pic, trying to pick between your options – here are 7 good and bad things about Tinder and dating online. It seems like more and more people are finding love online. Traditionally, boy meets girl would take place at a mutual friend’s party, at the bar, at a church ...

7 Reasons You’re Unhappy in Your 20s and 30s

7 Reasons You're Unhappy in Your 20s and 30sNot enjoying life as much as you wish you were? Here are 7 reasons you’re unhappy in your 20s and 30s. I was thinking the other day how amazingly different it would be growing up as a child in our current generation. Back in my younger years, we were shown this amazing facility known as a “library”, ...

One Guy’s Reaction to The Hunger Games Love Triangle

One Guy's Reaction to The Hunger Games Love TriangleKatniss Everdeen – strong, confident… and caught between two options. What’s up with the Hunger Games Love Triangle? I have a confession to make – the first Hunger Games movie didn’t grab me straight up like it did everyone else. Fans of the book were thrilled to see one of their favourite series getting the trilogy ...

When You Feel Like A Dirty Backslider

When You Feel Like A Dirty BacksliderBeen missing church? Feeling far away? Made a mistake and feeling judged by others? What do you do when you feel like a dirty backslider? Shame is one of the most powerful human experiences. It’s that very distinct feeling of ugliness when you’ve either done something you believe to be wrong, or someone else makes you ...

3 Ways Your Corporate Job Can Change The World

3 Ways Your Corporate Job Can Change The WorldFeel like you can’t make a difference while stuck working in an office? Think again. Your corporate job could change the world. When you think of world changing professions that make a difference in people’s lives, there’s usually a pretty standard set of images that come to mind. We think of those who faithfully serve in ...

7 Reasons You Hate Being Single

7 Reasons You Hate Being SingleNot in a relationship and hating it? Can’t stand all the pressure and hate everyone talking about it? Here are some reasons why many people hate being single.   Over the past weekend, I got to be a Master of Ceremonies at another one of my friends’ wedding receptions. It was an absolutely beautiful day – the bride looked ...

6 Overlooked Qualities In a Person You Should Date

6 Overlooked Qualities In a Person You Should DateThere are so many lists out there about the right qualities in a person you should date. But I think there are some being overlooked… I love seeing some of the articles that get shared around by the people I know. In the past you would have to rely purely on sites like StumbleUpon and what the ...

8 More Ideas on How to Make Close Friends

8 More Ideas on How to Make Close FriendsMany of us are surrounded by people every day, and yet still feeling lonely and longing for someone we can really talk to. Here are some ideas on how to make close friends. The older I get, the more people I meet, whether they be in business, friend-of-a-friend, storesperson or otherwise, the more I am starting to realize ...

Where Exactly Does Attraction Come From

Where Exactly Does Attraction Come FromAttracted to someone you shouldn’t be? Not attracted to someone you wish you were? Anywhere in between? Where exactly does attraction come from? The laws of attraction remain one of the biggest mysteries of relationships. What is it exactly that draws two people together? What is it that pushes them apart? Why can one be so ...

Why We Can’t Commit

Why We Can't CommitWhether it’s him, her, them, they, or even you – here’s why we can’t commit. Warning: This may contain some things you don’t want to hear. The song that gets the biggest reaction at a party or a wedding is hands down Single Ladies by Beyonce. You know what I’m talking about. All of a sudden, ladies ...

7 Ways to Encourage and Inspire Others

7 Ways to Encourage and Inspire OthersEver wished you could encourage others the way others have encouraged you? Here are 7 ways to be a better encourager.   I’ve worked with teenagers for a number of years, primarily through an Australian organization known as Scripture Union. Over the years I have been involved in running a number of camps for teenagers where they ...

10 Reasons Why You Ain’t Got No Time For That

10 Reasons Why You Ain't Got No Time For ThatNot enough hours in the day? Here are 10 reasons why you seem to have no time. So many of us struggle to find the time in the day to do all the things we’d like to do. Got to work, do the housework, look after the kids, and all the other myriad of things that ...

The Root Issue of Human Trafficking

The Root Issue of Human TraffickingModern slavery and sex trafficking are major issues in our society today, but I feel that we’re not talking about the root issue of human trafficking. Warning: The following written content is intended for mature audiences. Sex trafficking is a massive issue in our world today. Thanks to movies like Taken and the great work of some ...

6 Reasons We Absolutely LoveHate The Bachelor

6 Reasons We Absolutely LoveHate The BachelorBlake, Sam, and a slew of other hopeful ladies hoping for a chance of winning his heart. Here are 6 reasons we absolutely love and hate The Bachelor. Another season of The Bachelor has come and gone on Australian TV. Whether or not you’ve been watching it, it’s been almost impossible to not know what’s been ...

Desperate in Dating

Desperate in DatingA lot of us go to great lengths to ensure that in our relationships, we don’t appear too desperate. But what exactly does that mean?   I’ve been in a number of conversations recently where the topic of expressing interest has come up. A lot of them have come up due to the rising number of relationships ...

When You’ve Had a Bad Church Experience

When You've Had a Bad Church ExperienceIt’s hard when you’re hoping for answers, but end up getting hurt or disappointed. There are some things you can do when you’ve had a bad church experience. I’ve made a few hospital visits this year to see some of my friends and their family members after surgery or a health scare. They’re actually really great places ...

7 Underrated Qualities in a Man

7 Underrated Qualities in a ManThere are some things as guys we sometimes don’t value enough. Here are 7 underrated qualities in a man. I recently wrote the post 7 Underrated Attractive Qualities in a Woman, and it went somewhat viral pretty fast. It was written to celebrate some of the qualities in our girls that sometimes don’t get the air ...

5 Ways To Handle Loss and Disappointment

5 Ways To Handle Loss and DisappointmentAll of us at different points encounter loss and disappointment in our lives, no matter how big or how small. Here are 5 ways to move forward. Despite our cultural, spatial, religious, or physical differences, we are all united together in the human experience. We all know what it’s like to laugh and to have a good ...

7 Underrated Attractive Qualities in a Woman

7 Underrated Attractive Qualities in a WomanWhen it comes to attractive qualities in women, every list can be different. Here are 7 underrated qualities that a lot of men really value. Attraction can be a seemingly complex topic. Just what is it exactly what makes someone attractive? Why do certain people find certain things attractive, while other people don’t? How important is ...

8 Things That Hinder Love In Our Lives

8 Things That Hinder Love In Our LivesLove is amazing, but it’s not always that easy. Here are 8 things that can hinder the love in our lives. Keeping with the theme of Spring, let’s start by saying that love is quite literally the best thing ever. It’s amazing to think that as powerful as faith is, and as foundational to human existence ...

Women and Submission – What Exactly Does It Mean

Women and Submission - What Exactly Does It MeanWhen it comes to the topic of women and submission in marriage, few things bring up more angst and uncertainty. Just what exactly does submission mean? When I think of the word “submission”, a few things come to mind. I think of when I have an assignment, a project proposal or a new software version due ...

Who You’re Supposed To Be

Who You're Supposed To BeBetween the expectations of others and the expectations you place on yourself, just who exactly are you supposed to be? It’s amazing that even as a grown man or woman, you’d think you’d be more settled in life by now. I mean, you’ve spent 12-14 years in schooling, probably taken or undertaking some form of tertiary ...

The Loneliness of Leadership

The Loneliness of LeadershipHow can you be surrounded by people, and yet feel so alone? This one goes out to anyone who has faced the loneliness of leadership. There are a number of oxymorons in our world. A friend pointed out to me last night when I mentioned I wanted to write this post that oxymoron itself is an ...

How To Speak To Men

How To Speak To MenHusband, love interest, father, brother, son, or friend – here are some thoughts on how to speak to men. The most searched blog post on my site is a post I did quite a while ago called Why He Hasn’t Asked You Out Yet. Every time I see the search terms, I feel kind of sad ...

Why We’re Always Tired

Why We're Always TiredFeel like you’re always running just above empty? You wouldn’t be the only one. Here’s why we’re always tired. Well, maybe a few potential reasons why anyway. I love asking people about their weekends. I think it says so much about a person the way they spend the time they aren’t at work (unless they work on ...

Confessions of an Average Guy

Confessions of an Average GuyThere are things that we keep to ourselves and don’t always say out loud. Here are some of my confessions of an average guy. I think all of us to love to explore our issues through the lives of other people. Look at reality TV and talk shows. Two books I really enjoy are Confessions of ...

Are Women Too Emotional

Are Women Too EmotionalSome guys would say that women can be too needy, high maintenance, or overbearing. Is it really true that women are too emotional? One of my favourite things to do is explore some of those longstanding and heavily repeated statements about men and women. For instance, is it true that men are only ever after one thing? ...

How To Have a Good Conversation

How To Have a Good ConversationAwkward tension, long pauses, and nothing to talk about? Here’s how to have a good conversation with just about anybody. The IT, engineering and science disciplines cop it a lot when it comes to being the subject of comedy. The majority of the laughs in these shows pertain to the social ineptitude of the leading characters. ...

6 Things That Could Ruin Your Future

6 Things That Could Ruin Your FutureWe all have promises and dreams inside of us that we’d like to see come to life in our lives. Here are 6 things that could ruin your future. I love the naive optimism of kids. It can be painfully cute sometimes to watch how blissfully ignorant they are to the woes of the world. The 5 ...

Why We Can’t Get Motivated

Why We Can't Get MotivatedStudy, work, career, health and fitness, family and friends – we all have things we want to do well at. Here is the reason why we just can’t get motivated. A lot of us struggle in the area of being motivated and disciplined. All of us have things that we know that we should be doing. ...

7 Reasons Why Marriage Is Awesome

7 Reasons Why Marriage Is AwesomeMarriage often gets a bad wrap, and it’s definitely not all cakes and rainbows. Here are 7 reasons why marriage is actually awesome. I’ve written various times before about the lowering number of people tying the knot. In fact, if you Google “The Decline of Marriage”, you will find many related articles from numerous countries, such ...

Top 10 Challenges of Growing Up In Church

Top 10 Challenges of Growing Up In ChurchSunday School was cool, youth taught you the truth, but now you have a new set of difficulties to face. Here are 10 challenges I faced growing up in church. If there was one group of people who cop a lot in life, it would be the children of people who grow up in ministry. Whether it ...

6 Pros and Cons of Playing Hard to Get

6 Pros and Cons of Playing Hard to GetWe’ve all seen the classic strategy of playing hard to get in action. Here are some pros and cons of the approach. Thanks to Vine videos, Facebook is seeing a lot more video ads coming through. One of the ads that caught my attention recently was a video entitled “How To Get The Girl”. The video ...

How To Make The Most Of Your Money

How To Make The Most Of Your MoneyAll of us are looking how to grow and enjoy our wealth. Here is the secret to how to make the most of your money. I recently attending an investors conference with a few friends. It was mainly tailored towards property investing, but also talked a bit about negotiating the share market. As the old adage ...

What I’m Not Ready For A Relationship Really Means

What I'm Not Ready For A Relationship Really MeansSometimes our words don’t tell the full story. What is really happening when we say or hear “I’m not ready for a relationship”? There are some classically enduring lines we use when it comes to relationship. “It’s not you, it’s me” comes to mind as one of the top sentences we use or we hear. It’s usually ...

In Pursuit of Orgasm

In Pursuit of OrgasmWestern culture frames the humble orgasm as one of the most important experiences anyone can pursue. Is it really so important? What is the most important thing in your life? The word orgasm has only really worked itself into mainstream media in the last 25 years (probably mainly initiated by the above movie). It used to be ...

7 More Differences Between Dating a BoyGirl Vs. Dating a ManWoman

7 More Differences Between Dating a BoyGirl Vs. Dating a ManWomanWe all know there are differences between dating a boy vs. dating a man, and between dating a girl vs. dating a woman. But what other differences come with maturity? One of the latest topics going viral is the difference between dating a boy vs. dating a man and its female equivalent. Usually the people reposting ...

Praying About Big Decisions

Praying About Big DecisionsWhen facing big decisions, it can be difficult trying to hear and recognize God’s voice. How do you know if God is speaking to you? If you’re a frequent visitor to the site, you would know I’m a big fan of writing about relationships. Marriage in particular is something I love to explore, and I like to think about ...

7 Reasons Why Single People are Still Single

7 Reasons Why Single People are Still SingleOkay, so we’ve seen the lists about things single people are tired of hearing. But let’s actually have a real look at the reasons why they’re still single.   One of the most interesting things about those articles like 24 Things Single People Are Tired Of Hearing to me isn’t necessarily the content of the articles. Sure, as a ...

8 Observations From A Third Wheel

8 Observations From A Third WheelIf you’re single, you’re dealing with all your friends getting dates and getting married. If you’re in a relationship, you’re dealing with your single friends who are still single. Here are 8 observations from the perspective of a Third Wheel. At the end of last year I had a friend ask me a question at a ...

Standards of Beauty

Standards of BeautyIt seems unfair to make people compete with society’s standards of beauty. But men and women alike know what it’s like to face this pressure.   Most people will recognize the above picture from social media and news sites across the world over the last week and a bit. He is Jeremy Meeks, arrested for possession of ...

5 Reasons Why We Don’t Open Up

5 Reasons Why We Don't Open UpSometimes opening yourself up to others can be the hardest thing you can do. Here are 5 reasons why we find it so hard. I recently posted an article entitled 7 Ways To Make Better Friends. I’m used to some of my relationship-related articles getting a few more hits, like The Source and Impact of Sexual Fantasy or What ...

7 Ways to Make Better Friends

7 Ways to Make Better FriendsA lot of us feel like we don’t have anyone to talk to or any really close friends. Here are 7 ways to make some better ones. . We live in a catch-22 of a society around our interconnectivity. Through technology like Facebook, Skype, Google+, MySpace (if you still have it), WhatsApp, Foursquare and even the humble SMS, ...

6 Pros and Cons of the Ideal Partner List

6 Pros and Cons of the Ideal Partner ListWhen it comes to choosing a dating or marriage partner, everyone’s got their own list. Here are the pros and cons of “The List” approach. Back before the internet was so mainstream, there were these things called “magazines”. Basically what a magazine was was a collection of website articles printed out on paper. Yeah ok, so ...

The Magic of Disney’s Frozen – A Shoreline Review

The Magic of Disney's Frozen - A Shoreline ReviewEveryone fell in love with Olaf and can’t stop singing that soundtrack – why is it that Disney’s Frozen is such a memorable and powerful movie? I love me a good Disney flick. And a good musical. I’m quite partial to Tangled, The Muppet Christmas Carol, The Emperor’s New Groove, Beauty and the Beast, and many ...

Why Women Don’t Understand

Why Women Don't UnderstandLet’s face it – women aren’t the only ones who can act confusing sometimes. And of course, all the men reading this are thinking, “Hey, men are easy to understand. It’s women who are the complicated ones”. But if you ask any of the females reading this, you may find yourself being disagreed with. I never like to ...

Why Men Don’t Understand

Why Men Don't UnderstandYou hope for him to show some tenderness, compassion and comfort, but it’s just not clicking. Why don’t men seem to get it? Well, we sure have had a look at some big topics in the last few weeks. Ranging from our Silent Pain, to The Source and Impact of Sexual Fantasy, through to The Pressures ...

The Pressures of Dating

The Pressures of DatingIs there too much pressure on dating?   You’ve talked about it for months. You’ve gone through the scenarios in your head. You’ve gotten the advice of others. But now it’s finally time… You’re Facebook official. And all the world goes nuts. You know what I’m talking about. You have to turn off the Notifications setting on your phone because ...

The Source and Impact of Sexual Fantasy

The Source and Impact of Sexual FantasyMale or female, young or old – what is the source and impact of sexual fantasy in your life? If you saw my last post, you’ll know I have recently been in Japan for a number of weeks. I really enjoyed the journey and seeing all the amazing scenery across Honshu and Hokkaido. I also loved all the ...

Silent Pain

Silent PainWhat is the pain that you keep to yourself? Did ya miss me? It’s been a little while, huh! That’s because I’ve been on holiday in Japan for the last 3 weeks, seeing pretty much all the sights. I went to 10 of the cities thanks to my JR Pass – Osaka, Kyoto, Nagoya, Tokyo, Sapporo, ...

The Fear of Failure

The Fear of Failure Why are we so afraid to fail? Here are some musings on our fear of failure. One of the things that all of us have in common is that we don’t want to get to the end of our lives with any regrets. If such a person does exist, please make yourself known, but I’ve never ...

An Open Letter to Tired Christian Leaders

An Open Letter to Tired Christian LeadersDear Christian Leader, The office of Christian leadership is one of incredible reward and incredible responsibility. It is a privilege to be able to serve one’s fellow man in ministry and all its various forms, but it is also at times a great burden to carry. And in the office of ministry, so many are burning out. The ...

4 Reasons Why We Don’t Like Growing Up

4 Reasons Why We Don't Like Growing Up Immaturity in dating, nostalgia overload, the pursuit of everlasting youth, Peter Pan Syndrome, childish tendencies – why do we find growing up so hard? Whenever people ask what I do, I usually do a little routine. “I’m a programmer and a consultant, I get paid to be a nerd”, which is a pretty accurate description of ...

The Truth Behind Selfies, No Make-Up and Beauty

The Truth Behind Selfies, No Make-Up and BeautyIs there something deeper behind selfies and a lack of make-up? What are we really saying about beauty here? You probably would’ve seen that there is a pretty cool awareness campaign going on at the moment on different social media sites. The main gist of it is women taking photos of themselves without any make-up on ...

The Divorce Epidemic

The Divorce EpidemicDivorce is a terrible thing that most of us have been exposed to at one point or another. How do you negotiate through the pain of being associated with a divorce, and how do you avoid it in your own life? We seem to be getting better and better at monitoring statistics and having a general ...

The Man Drought and Defining Eligibility

The Man Drought and Defining Eligibility    It seems that there is a struggle to find the right man that gets harder and harder as people get older. The Man Drought is a phenomena which has been discussed at length over the last 10-20 years. It is commonly taken to be the perception that there are less eligible men than there are eligible ...

6 Things You Should Know If You’re Losing Hope

6 Things You Should Know If You're Losing HopeIf you find yourself losing hope, there are some things you should know. Hope is such an invaluable commodity. When Barack Obama was first running for president, his campaign centred around the idea of hope. When a natural disaster occurs, it is communicated to all those who have suffered not to lose hope. When children are ...

What Men Really Want

What Men Really WantWe all know that there is only one thing men are after. But maybe the definition of what men really want isn’t as obvious as the first thing that comes to mind. Adolescence is a pretty interesting time for people. It’s the age of discovery, the age where lots of new feelings and sensations occur in ...

Does God Really Care

Does God Really CareDoes God really care? Epicurus, one of the founding fathers of modern atheism, is quite famous for coming up with a logical statement about the existence of God. Known as the Epicurean Paradox, it is still largely used today as a strong argument in the debate of the existence of the Christian God: Is God willing to ...

Attack of the Friend Zone

Attack of the Friend ZoneIt’s a bird! It’s a plane! No, it’s the Friend Zone! So you’ve been hanging out for a while. You’re getting to know her. You’re spending time with him. Things are going pretty great. And you’re starting to wonder, hey, maybe there’s a bit more to this. And then it happens “We’re just friends” Or for some in a ...

7 Ways To Stop Being Indecisive

7 Ways To Stop Being IndecisiveHow do you stop being indecisive? It’s always difficult organizing a big group to go to a restaurant. Everyone has ideas on where they want to go, where they want to sit, who they want to sit next to. It can be a chore and a half just getting everyone in the same room, let alone ...

Alone With Your Thoughts

What’s life like for you when you’re by yourself? How do you fare in those times when you’re feeling lonely or you’re facing your biggest dreams? We live in a very busy world. The rat race sure is a race, with lots of people getting left behind in the process, and sometimes those who are in ...

Why He Hasn’t Asked You Out Yet

Why He Hasn't Asked You Out YetSo… why hasn’t he asked you out yet? Who’s he? I’m not sure. It’ll either be that guy who you instantly thought of when you read that sentence, or maybe it’s just that you’d like someone to ask you out at all. Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. A day of romance. What that means for ...

The Allure of Bad Boys and The Loss of Innocence

The Allure of Bad Boys and The Loss of InnocenceHe’s charming, he’s mysterious, he’s a bad boy, and he’s alluring. Yet the effect of this man can be felt for years to come. What is it that’s so attractive about the bad boy persona, and how do you progress after he’s been and gone? This past Sunday night I went out to see a movie ...

The Anatomy Of A Chick Flick

This post was originally posted to Facebook on July 14, 2013 Ah, the immortal chick flick. The bane of many a man’s existence, and usually the default choice for many dates at the movies or girls’ nights. What is it about these movies that makes them sell so well, cause them to be replayed so much, ...

What I Wish Women Knew About Men

This post was originally posted to Facebook on August 20, 2013 There are some things I wish women knew about men. You know when you see a group of people going through things, dealing with big questions, wishing someone would just reach out and say something? This is that. I dunno, I guess there’s something about men that a ...

Feeling Far Away

This post was originally posted to Facebook on August 2, 2013 What do you do when God feels so far away? Everyone goes through different seasons in their lives. One of the main ways we kind of gauge our seasons is through our feelings. Lots of changes, every day a new experience, a feeling of uncertainty – ...

Great Sexpectations

This post was originally posted to Facebook on September 29, 2013 What are your sexual expectations, and where do they come from? Since the 70s, sex moved from a more quiet aspect of human relationships into the spotlight of modern society. We called it our sexual liberation. It wasn’t just an activity that husband and wife executed ...

Happy With Me

This post was originally posted to Facebook on December 8, 2013 Have you ever felt like you’re not good enough? We all have people in our lives who live on the extremes. If they’ve got a problem in some area, it’s usually an extreme of the problem. If they’re awkward when they’re in public, they’re really awkward ...

Walking the Shoreline

Welcome to Walking the Shoreline! I have been writing some of my thoughts on various issues as I’ve been going through life over the last few years on my Bebo, MySpace, Facebook and so on, and thought it was high time to start doing this in a more public forum. I’m just a guy like ...